I’m sure there are a lot of singles out there either annoyed or depressed. And yet others that couldn’t care any less. Me, yes, I am single. But it doesn’t bother me because I am trying to stay focused on a couple of things. Even though it’s rather difficult, I try not to have control of too many things, especially since my life has been a bit chaotic for about half of a year. Do I like it? Not really. Am I learning from it? Yes. Trials help us sort many things in life.
Do we sort these complex life events successfully during the storm? We probably don’t do it with a clear mind and hit a few bumps along the way. Relationships stiffen, your tummy welcomes binge eating, and every step we take feels as if we are carrying two other selves. Most people will not cater to this type of behavior. You push them out, and they gladly stay out of it because people don’t like problems.
We, humans, love happy! Some people cope just fine with people’s problems and walk every step of the way. But most people cannot handle such pressure. In spite of this “chaotic” moment, because everything is temporary, I can’t really say that my life is detrimental.
I learned something about chaos watching the Super Bowl. I am not a big fan of football. I’m more of a soccer fan. That means I don’t believe anything should get in the way of an important game. For the Super Bowl (Amazing half time by Lady Gaga by the way), I didn’t really have a favorite team. I thought, “Let the best team win.” Little did I know why people were so passionate about this particular game–the whole controversies that surrounded the Patriots.
By the third quarter, I wanted the Patriots to win, but I didn’t think, like most people, that they could win. I never imagined such a comeback. Wow! I witnessed, possibly, one of the best games ever–at least for me. Naturally, the victory trended on Twitter. I saw a meme that said, “Just because you had a few bad plays doesn’t mean you’ll lose the game.”
I think that’s how we’re supposed to approach life. Yes, it’s difficult. Also, as a writer, I need to fully embrace this dark cloud. I am not a big fan of what I call “hyper motivation,” which means that people have this irrealistic idea about life and like to say, “just be happy!”
Life can be tough. If you’re deep shit, you’re in trouble. End of matter. I can’t tell someone, “hey, you’re not in deep shit” when they actually are in big pile of…well you know the rest.
What I don’t agree is staying fallen and defeated. As difficult as it may be, we need to pick ourselves up–if you have friends or family willing to walk that path with you, even better. If not, then you have to be courageous on your own to push out of it. Have a few bad plays. But don’t lose the game.
I’m not an expert in love. But sometimes life follows the same patterns. A few bad relationships should not define the rest of your love life.
Here’s a short list of the things I do to cope with stress:
- Play the guitar
- Watch The Mindy Project or How I Met Your Mother
Below is the love of my life. Just kidding. Okay, I am not kidding. 😀 Who’s your celebrity crush? This time only, I’ll forgive you if it’s some Barcelona player. If you choose a Real Madrid player, we might become besties. 😉
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