Hello, everyone. I’m going to put myself on blast here, but it’s okay because I learned a few things from a typo. I used the word “descent” instead of “decent.” See the picture below. So a lot of people found it amusing to make fun of me. It’s okay. They didn’t hurt my feelings. I’ve been sarcastic myself. I actually found it funny when I realized it.
So then I clarified it. But it didn’t matter because, well, human beings like to jump on the boat of, “Yay, let’s mock this person.” I’m still okay—no harm was done.
I have over 3,000 tweets. Out of all the tweets, this particular tweet got the most attention. My tweets aren’t usually the most popular ones. But here is why I am glad I made the obvious embarrassing mistake. I learned something from this tweet, which has 941 likes and 268 retweets (RT):
1. The ones who hit like and RT were mostly (a vast majority) women.
2. The next group was a mix of both males and females mocking the typo.
3. The other group was men who seemed angry at the tweet, and they felt the need to call me ugly or state something inappropriate (And this didn’t hurt my feelings in whatsoever. I’m not a young and insecure girl. I’m a woman, full grownup.)
The Rant Begins
Here’s my point. Perhaps most women felt the need to hit like or RT because they are tired of this male culture requesting nudes or sending messages such as, “Hey, you want a dick pic?” Of course, not all men are the same. I have male friends who aren’t disrespectful and creepy, and I’ve met other men on social media who treat me like a person.
Here’s another point: I’ve realized that men get furious when you don’t comply with their wishes. They think, “Hey, I’m nice to you, why don’t you like me back?” The answer is simple. No woman has to like any man just because they’re nice. Attraction and love don’t function like that. There has to be a connection, and you have to respect women as human beings, not a piece of meat. We’re not a pick and point, and then it’s like “You’re mine.”
Also, after men realize that you’re not interested, they insult you. Here are three insults that I’ve seen women complain about, or the insults have been directed toward me:
1. You ugly bitch. (Or some kind of body shame insult)
2. Like you’re all that anyway.
3. You’re not my type anyway.
These are the nicest ones. The list goes on. I ask myself, what makes some men think that we women have to do anything for them? Especially if we don’t know you and don’t know what you have up your sleeve? We don’t have to like you. We don’t have to talk to you. We don’t have to be nice to you if you’re a complete demanding jerk. We don’t need you. And guess what, we have the right to be cautious. If you’re not an actual creeper, don’t take it personally. But do understand that there are weirdos out here, and we have to take precautions. Why is that so difficult to understand?
I feel that some men are angry at women because they have this delusional idea that the pornography industry has embedded in their minds. In the end, that’s all still acting. Articles, psychologists, or some men mock women because women would like to have this Disney fairy tale, would love to live a romantic comedy in real life, or have this 50 Shades of Grey bad boy changed into a good guy for the sake of true love. How delusional of women. Well, it’s the same thing with men’s fantasies. Women vary and most women, like being treated as a person, not just as sexual objects to fulfill all your fantasies.
And no, just because you call a woman beautiful doesn’t give you the right to request anything either. Some men will say anything to get what they want, so why should that be a reason to like you or believe you?
Women have feelings, wishes, and struggles. Women have dreams. They have pains that come with this world we live in. Women have hobbies, such as painting, writing, or lifting weights. Women are your mothers, sisters, daughters, nieces, granddaughters, grandmothers so on and so forth. Women are your lawyers, teachers, tax preparers, neighbors so on and so forth.
Women are individuals, and we are all different. Some women like to send nudes, others don’t. Some women are conservative, others liberal. Some women are into hookups, others are not. Some women cheat, others don’t. Some women like the idea of “friends with benefits,” other women DON’T. Some women are horrible people, others are kind people. Imagine that.
In the end, WE DON’T HAVE TO LIKE YOU–It doesn’t give you the right to insult or offend a woman. It doesn’t give you the right to get angry. Frustrated at rejection? Okay, that’s understandable. But a woman still has a choice in all this matter. Would you like being forced into liking a woman that you’re not attracted to or interested in her? Would that make you a bad person? I don’t think so.
Also, if you’re a guy who wants to fall in love and you’re growing bitter at women, why not try to be a real friend first. We can sense falsehood. If she doesn’t like you, move on. It’s not meant to be. You don’t have to be a jerk about it.
©Ana P. Rose & Anaprose 2017.
Here’s another article complaining about angry men: http://thoughtcatalog.com/christine-stockton/2014/12/bitches-be-crazy/#comments
“Why I stopped watching porn,” Ran Gavrieli. TedEx.