One of those tricky things to do for many of us is to forgive. At many times, we want to cling to our grudges, hate, and bitterness. When we remain in relationships or environments, whether it’s a love interest, a family member, a friend, or work that trigger negativity, we fall into a terrible pattern that doesn’t benefit us or the others.
This brings me to a verse in the Bible, Mathew 5:29: “If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you.” Now, this verse has a lot more to it. For the sake of keeping this message simple and short, I’ll leave stick to the shortened quote. To me, the quote means that anything or anyone that causes you to stumble in your life, “pluck it out.” This doesn’t mean literally because ouch and yikes!
It’s good to cut people and things out of our life who/that cause your heart to become bitter. It’s not good to be angry at people who we once had a connection with because it becomes painful and toxic. The memories remain in the past and what matters is the present. The past memories can’t make up for the current state.
We can’t make people care. We can’t force people to change. So we must take the step to move on–sometimes even if we still care for those individuals. We have to “pluck them out.” Once we let go, we can begin the healing process. The most important step to reach is forgiveness. But that can’t start if there isn’t a change, a decision to move on.
Do I believe relationships can be restored? Of course. However, there are little possibilities of restoring anything that has been broken if we can’t rebuild the trust. It becomes a delicate situation. Both parties must be willing to care. Both must be honest and sincere. We can’t heal anything with lies and deceit.
Once again, “If you’re right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you.” So throw away anything in your life that doesn’t help you improve as a person as a whole. Not necessarily because the others are bad people, but because toxic relationships or environments turn you into a person you don’t want to be.