Hello, ladies and gents. I’m Ana, and I decided to write about the following because it really hit close to home. This video called “The Myth Of Female Friendships” by the Feminine Fancy popped up on my Youtube feed. And I was like, wow. I thought I was the only one thinking all this. I will post the link below. I highly suggest watching the rest of the video. She covers that young girls are taught that their main priority is finding a guy, and we have so many articles (and other sources) on how to have a healthy relationship with a boyfriend or husband, which is fine, by the way. You want your romantic relationships to be healthy.
But we don’t put the same emphasis on friendships in our adulthood. The older we get, the more we start leaving our friends behind. We can’t manage arguments and fights. And this is me adding to this, I feel women friendship, or at least in my experience, kind of end with, “Screw you then,” block, ignore, ghost, treat you like you’re not part of the in-group anymore… because women are brutal. Men complain about women, but women are meaner to women. 😂 There are no breakups, no therapy. Nothing. It just ends.
And this is true because, in my adulthood, I’ve lost all my friends from college. I randomly get messages from friends from back in my college years, and then I don’t hear from them for months or years. We’re more like acquaintances. As long as we have a peace treaty, I don’t mind it because I have healed from all the hurt. It is what it is.
Also, I don’t have any childhood friends because my parents moved a lot. So that created another dent for me in my relationships growing up. When I had made a bond, boom, “Time to move.” My dad worked in sales, and if he needed to move to a different company, he would do it without much thought into it. I was always the new kid at school, and I was not too fond of it. Despite my parent’s decisions, I never felt angry at them. My dad had to take care of our family, and I fully understood that as a kid.
In addition, I’m ashamed to admit that I didn’t have a close bond with my siblings. I have two sisters and a “little” brother. I’m the oldest, by the way. So, on the bright side, all this allowed me to form better relationships with my sisters, including my brother. They are my friends now, and though we want to strangle each at times, we work things out.
If you still have friends from your childhood or youth, cherish them. Not everyone has that luxury.
- The Feminine Fancy. The Myth of Female Friendships. March 27,20220. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5Jw0HbaePw&t=162s